Okay, let’s talk about this. Dealing with a Leo man, especially one who seems to be playing games, was something I actually went through. It wasn’t fun at the start, let me tell you.
Figuring Out The Pattern
So, I met this guy. Classic Leo, super charming, lots of attention right off the bat. Made me feel like the center of the universe, you know? It was great. For a while.
Then, things started getting… weird. He’d be all over me one day, then kinda distant the next. Texts would go unanswered for hours, sometimes a whole day. But then, outta nowhere, he’d pop back up expecting all the praise and attention again. It drove me nuts trying to figure out what was going on. Was it me? Did I do something wrong?
I spent way too much time analyzing texts, replaying conversations. It felt like he was deliberately trying to keep me off balance. One minute hot, next minute cold. I noticed he loved being admired, like really thrived on it. But the inconsistency was the confusing part.
Trying a Different Approach
After a while of feeling confused and frankly, a bit played, I decided I had to change my approach. I couldn’t keep reacting the same way. I started observing more, reacting less.
Here’s what I started doing:
- Mirroring the Attention (or Lack Thereof): When he pulled back, I stopped chasing. Seriously. I just got busy with my own stuff. Didn’t double text. Didn’t ask if everything was okay. I just matched his energy. If he was distant, I was busy.
- Giving Attention Strategically: Leos need compliments, yeah, we all know that. But I stopped giving them away freely just because he showed up. I still complimented him, but made it count. When he actually did something thoughtful or impressive, I’d genuinely praise him. Not just for existing. Made him feel like he earned it.
- Being Playful, Not Predictable: Instead of getting serious or demanding answers when he was being flaky, I kept things lighter. Used more humor. Became a bit unpredictable myself. Planned fun things but didn’t always hinge them on him joining. Showed him I had my own exciting life going on.
- Dialing Back My Availability: This was key. I stopped dropping everything just because he called or texted. Sometimes I’d let it go to voicemail. Sometimes I’d reply later. Not in a mean way, just showing I wasn’t sitting by the phone waiting.
The Outcome
It was weird at first, felt unnatural because I genuinely liked the guy. But something shifted. When I stopped playing his game by his rules (chasing when he pulled away, demanding attention), the dynamic changed. He started being more consistent.
It wasn’t about “winning” some stupid game, it was about getting my own power back in the situation. I realized he was testing boundaries, maybe subconsciously, seeing how much he could get away with. By creating my own boundaries and not feeding into the drama, he seemed to respect me more. He knew he couldn’t just disappear and reappear and expect the same fawning reaction.
So yeah, that was my experience. It wasn’t about being manipulative, it was about matching energy and not letting myself get constantly thrown off balance by his need for control or attention games. Just focused on my own thing, gave attention when it felt right, and didn’t chase. It seemed to work, at least in my situation.
